It’s so tricky to figure out the balance of being a working mom.
I feel guilty at times, but I also remember that without a job, we won’t eat, have clothes or a roof over our heads. Those thoughts usually push my guilt away.
I do remember to make quality time with my daughter. She is not even 2 years old yet, but I still make sure we eat dinner together, do fun activities and just cuddle once in a while. She is my pride and joy, I want her to always know that I love her and think that she is more important than my work.
The biggest OBSTACLE for me anyways, is trying not to be so perfect. There’s no such thing as perfect, but yet I’m still trying to get there. I have to face the fact that I will never be perfect, no matter how hard I try. I will say the bar is set extremely hard for mothers. Especially, when every other mom is talking trash about the other mom. “Oh, you don’t make your kid’s all organic homemade food!? How dare you?!” or “You know to get your baby to stop crying you might want to stop this and do that“. It’s impossible to win over every mother’s approval and honestly you don’t even need one mother’s approval. The worst women about judging and being up your ass about your parenting skills are 1. Your Mother In-law 2. Your own mother. I do not have a mother in-law, however I have a mother and stepmother. They take care of that job. I do appreciate everything they do for my daughter and I, but when they decide to give my daughter ice cream at 9:30 at night, expect me to be pissed. Anyways, we are getting way off track here!
A big thing I try to remember is to not constantly compare myself to others. Our situation is different than anyone else’s situation. Your family is different than my family, so don’t compare our kids or our lives. We are not the same. Sometimes I wish I had certain aspects of your life (your salary, your car, your home) but at night we are safe, fed and happy. What more could I ask for?
I think the biggest secret to being a working mom, is to sacrifice work not your family. Harder done than said, but it needs to be done. I always try to remember that family is the most important thing in life!